The Saga Continues
So I wasn’t going to blog about this..I was just going to ignore it. But the more I read it and think about it, the funnier it is to me so I absolutely have to blog it! When I wrote my Wedding Date post…the subject of the post sat on my blog for 8 hrs on Sunday!! Thank you Statcounter! He was clearly obsessed and pissed off with me for exposing him and calling him out on my blog, that he sent me this extremely long, mean email on monday. I would love to post the whole thing for you, but seriously it’s like 3,000 words! Get a life, dude. So what I’ve decided to do instead, is pull out little excerpts from it and do my own commentary on it, just so you get an idea of the email.
Ready? This is gonna be fun.
Nicole
This isn’t the way I had originally intended to do this, I wanted to go for a coffee sit and talk but after the way you, your friends and your brother trashed me on facebook and your blog, I have have no desire to see nor speak with you. I hope you enjoy some more “ammo” because it really seems that’s what you desire ~ so you have something to blog about of course.
I’M ALL SET WITH YOU~ not only will I tell you, but I’ll tell you why as well.
Ummm….really coffee?? Don’t you think you could have done that 2 weeks ago? Face it, you had no intentions of ever sitting and talking “over coffee” with me, you’re only emailing me because I exposed you and called you out! And, uh, hell yeah I want things to blog about, I’m a writer it’s what i do, thanks for the traffic.
Your insecurity became unbearable
HAHA!!! I’m sorry, this line cracked me up!! I’ve been called a lot of things but never insecure. Calling me insecure is like calling me shy! Not even close. Have you watched my MomTV show…half the time i have no makeup on. This guy decided to pull alot of firsts on me…standing me up and calling me insecure. Do you need a dictionary?
You self sabotage yourself ~ the 1st night we went out I asked why you didn’t have a boyfriend and you said – i get dumped~alot~ more then you would think.. thats just planted the seed in my head? HUH? Your negative self talk and self consciousness helped fuel into the demise of this.
Well I certainly wasn’t gonna tell you that I usually end up kicking the assholes to the curb! Duh! So now, that’s negative self talk? I think you need help, seriously. Who asks that kind of a question on a first date anyways? I don’t talk negatively about myself because I’m friggin awesome! Me self-conscious?? You don’t know me at all!
Even your cousins wedding, which I would have gone to if you called me at noon, 1,2,3 oclock, but you waited til 4 oclock when you were already on your way to the church, you even saw my facebook status- “chiilin on the couch”, and you send a comment and dont even call?? I was on the couch, my computer is in my room, you know this, I didnt see it, I waited for your call, it was your wedding- your responsibility!
Okay, first of all, I had called you nearly everyday for 2 weeks and you only answered twice!! And check your facts buddy! This entire statement is twisted. I commented on your status and called you RIGHT after…it was only 3. Gena can vouch for me, because we were on Skype at the time! FYI, the church is 15min. away and I left at 5:30 to be there for 6…which conincidently was the time you called me and left me a voicemail. And I called you about your nieces wedding because you didn’t call…so who’s responsibility is it??
I just don’t want every little detail of my personal relationships being blogged for the world to see.
Wait? I blogged about every little detail of your personal relationship? Wow, that’s news to me. And lets be honest, you just don’t want people knowing you’re in a relationship.
So in closing I’ll say, I have met someone else who I’ve started hanging out with, her and I enjoy the time we’ve been spending together, there are no questions, cause she doesn’t care to ask, she enjoys our time together for what it is – a good time for both of us.. maybe if she brings it up a couple months down the road I’ll be ready to give some answers, but right now we just laugh, talk and just go with the flow and were happy with it and I don’t have to constantly reassure her of every little detail because she is secure with herself. When I kiss her I feel her passion and energy in the moment, not her insecurity and her am I putting too much or not enough into this. And it’s between us. She doesn’t make posts and videos of how good i am or what a loser I am, because she likes a little privacy and self respect and is respectful of me and mine as well.
So you just felt the need to HAVE to tell me you were dating someone else…and I’m the insecure one? Get over yourself! I am a writer, a blogger, and I write about MY life on MY personal blog. I can’t help but think how awesome it would be if she was also a blogger! LMAO!
At first I felt bad about not going to that wedding with you, but after watching the videos and reading the blogs and comments, I don’t feel so bad or guilty anymore and your friends and bloggers are right – I don’t deserve you.
or maybe I should say I don’t deserve that kind of trashing. I guess better to find out now then down the road.
This one is so funny to me, because had you really felt bad, you would have called me. And I never trashed you, never used your name or pictures…i just told everyone about a certain event that happened in my life. You made yourself look bad. And stop being such a baby, you deserved everything that my friends and bloggers said.
But honestly, I don’t think your a bad person, I think your emotions were running high and you were looking for an avenue and vented. But to stop what you were doing at your cousins wedding to make a video blog was a little strange and ridiculous.
Hello, jackass! This is MY blog, of course I’m gonna vent about it here! And I always carry my Flip with me, you never know when something video worthy is gonna come up. And don’t worry, I didn’t stop what I was doing, it was a song i didn’t like so I snuck out to the bar area and videoed myself.
I wont even post what horrible things you said about my brother (even though he thinks their a riot). How low class can you be, to attack someones family? But I will say, my brother didn’t like you because when we took you to the Patriots game and went and tailgated with YOUR friends, we stood there like imposters. You didn’t even introduce us to your friends. And remember my brother walked away. He couldn’t believe you could be so rude! I bought you that Patriots ticket for your birthday and what did I get? Oh yeah, he took me to a sports bar. No flowers. Nothing. Class act.
So in closing I will say I feel sorry for him and we all should. He is 38, never married, has no kids and will probably live a very lonely life. Me however, I am a confident woman who knows exactly what i want and don’t want. Sorry if that was mistaken for insecurity.
P.S. One more thing, when you pick a girl up for a wedding (your nieces) tell her she looks GOOD!! Especially after she says you do. That loser never told me i looked good.
Dumbass…period…end of story!
Girl, don’t waste one more finger stroke on this sad excuse for a man. I have to wonder anyways, at 38, there’s a reason he hasn’t settled down yet. It’s better you found out now than later.
Of what he wrote, I do agree with one point – he does NOT deserve you and he’ll get what he does deserve, meaningless relationships and a lifetime of loneliness.
absolutely right Cat!!
Seriously he is a freak! Like I said if you would have called, then he’d label you as psychotic! Wasn’t it YOU that had to call HIM for his niece’s wedding! How lame is that! Oh and guess what ASSHOLE, she didn’t tell names or anything else on here. So she isn’t doing anything but writing how YOU made HER feel! MOVE ON!
This guy keeps reminding me why I am so happy to be married (& on the other side of the country!).
Blondie, you are hysterical! I love the breakdown. It’s a good thing this happened when it did. 1 – it makes for good blog material on YOUR blog and, 2 – now you can find yourself a REAL man.
Oh, and that dancing jack ass is TOO much! LOL
The only women who “hang” with men and have no questions and don’t care to ask are HOOKERS.
Prostitutes. Call girls. Escorts. Whatever. Either way. PAID FOR.
And since it’s illegal no wonder she likes her privacy.
ROFL!! Kim, you crack me up! I’m dying over here!!
Kim is totally right!!!
LMAO That’s what I was going to say! Right on, Kim!
Seriously though Nicole, this “man” needs a dictionary and a head check. He obviously doesn’t know a good thing when he has it. And you insecure? LMFAO Wow….seems like he was really paying attention and trying to get to know you. What a joke! He must have been sitting there the whole time with his head in his pants, staring at how gorgeous you are and wanting some, that’s why he didn’t realize you are a strong, independent woman. Sounds like he has right what he wants now though with his new girlfriend. No questions, no comments, silence and _____ (fill in the blank).
He’s right…no we were all right, he doesn’t deserve you! You’re WAY too good for him!!! *understatement alert*
Oh and I have to say, I think even though he tries to come off as pissed, I think he likes the attention or why else would he send you that email? He obviously wanted you to talk about him some more. Ya know, like with little kids, any attention is good attention, even if it’s negative. LOSER!
Oh and did I tell you that I totally LOVE YOU!
What an idiot! He has never married because he has never matured enough to be a proper husband, much less a boyfriend! DEAR LORD, how do guys like this keep getting girlfriends? Oh, I know, they LIE.
“I have met someone else who I’ve started hanging out with, her and I enjoy the time we’ve been spending together, there are no questions, cause she doesn’t care to ask, she enjoys our time together for what it is – a good time for both of us.. maybe if she brings it up a couple months down the road I’ll be ready to give some answers, but right now we just laugh, talk and just go with the flow and were happy with it and I don’t have to constantly reassure her of every little detail because she is secure with herself.”
Dude, all that shows is that you are afraid of commitment and just want vapid, vacuous arm candy. “No questions” means YOU don’t want to get involved too deeply.
Nicole, you are so much better off without this fucktard. I am sure you can find someone who is worthy of you.
BTW, trashing him on your blog would involve revealing his name and picture, which you have never done. You were simply sharing your life and the facts of the situation. I guess someone is wee bit sensitive, eh?
PS: I am STILL laughing about you being “insecure and self conscious”. Yeah, as if!
Okay, so I am a lurker and I just caught up on all the drama. Blech! This kinda crap makes me happy to be married.
Everyone has already said enough about this “boy” so all I can say is you are attractive, strong, smart, fun girl and any guy (or lesbian!) would think you are a catch. How droll that he’s only looking for a robot to sit there and smile and nod.
That being said, I’m sorry it didn’t work out the way you hoped. But like they say, when one door closes, another opens. And may the scenery be much nicer when the next one swings wide!
Feel free to lurk any time Kristen! And thanks for the kind words! Oh and I love the name of your blog!! Stop by again!
Oh, and because I love you so much, I nominated you for this little blog award. You probably already got it but here it is in case you want to grab it! http://goodie-goodie-gumdrops.blogspot.com/2009/11/blog-awards-im-feelin-love.html
What a complete fckface! He is a big coward. He should of had the nerve to at least tell you. I mean so you could find a much better date that deserves your gorgeousness. I sincerely hope he and his new tramp are happy together. Just a bit advice coward… with your new girl I would double wrap it cause she sounds like a skank.
Nicole- I love ya. You deserve so much better than that worthless piece of shit.
Double wrap it!! LMAO!!!! I love you!!
I have started reading your blog only a few days ago and I have to agree with everyone else. He must have a lot of time on his hands to write a 3,000 word email, I mean really, get a life. Was he trying to make himself feel better by dogging you? What an ass.
Welcome! I hope you stick around long enough to see some other non-loser guy posts i write! LOL. But i think you are right, he was just trying to make himself feel better by trying to put me down!
totally cracked me up … confuses me why someone who was unhappy to get trashed would write something that would quite obviously be written about … I’m thinking he has a need for attention maybe?
Wow…this is a grown man??? And I think and well most people think it’s entirely RAD that you vlogged at the wedding!!! Um…you looked hot mama and his loser arse was sitting on his couch – bwahahahaha. Super. I have so many things to say about this but I love you and I love your blog posts!!!!
wow if he was a real man he would have called you to tell you all this bs in the first place instead of taking the easy way and writing a long as email lol…2nd I agree he is not worth it. I would question Why he is still single and no kids at his age..He should Check himself and see that HE MAY JUST BE THE ISSUE Not you or other females lol.
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This guy has to be absolutly nuts to stand you up like that,I could never ever think off doing something like that.You are absolutly to good looking to be taking that crap from anyone,and I mean that truely,I am also following you on twitter now.
aww, thats sweet! thanks for stopping by and for following me on twitter!
Hey Douchebag- you’re almost 40 and not married. Get a life, you are like a teenage boy!
He is probably gay. Any man would have to be to do that to you!
which actually explains A LOT!!
What a piece of work he is….Loved your post
this here? Hysterical!
Don’t let the door hit you on the way out buddy……
As a full-blooded male I need to defend this poor guy.
He did say that he was “chillin’ on the couch” so this is all on you. The fact that you two had already discussed where his ass should have been on that particular day is irrelevant.
When you two were on your first date, and he masterfully disguised his “what the hell is wrong with you” question, you shouldn’t have been honest. Rather than state that men like to trample your heart and return it C.O.D., you should have explained that you have lots of boyfriends…just none on [insert day of the week here]…yet.
He also offered to bless you with his presence and sit down over coffee until you ruined it. If you hadn’t been so inconsiderate as to get mad at him for standing you up then perhaps you two could be sharing a nice vapid relationship right now.
Instead, he’s out smooching a mute who recognizes what a catch he is.
As for, “She doesn’t make posts and videos of how good i am or what a loser I am.”
Give it time Casanova. Give it time.
I’ve been wondering when the hell you were gonna comment!! I knew you’d have something good to say! I friggin love you!!
LMAO I love that Greg!
So glad I’m married………….so glad. I’ve decided current husband is the last husband and I will simply become “that cat lady” like Lynn Truss. Unless Lynn managed to nab a decent guy, then I say “Great for Lynn!”
Wow! 38? I’m a newby, sent by @themorrisbunch on twitter! Gag! Are you in NC? By your twitter name 919, I just want to tell him how much of a lush he is! This is so high school! Grow up asshole!
Thanks for coming by!! No not in NC…919 is my sons birthday!
Missy!
You are an amazing woman and you don’t need his immature drama….
Seriously!
I thought these were the games we used to play in high school not when we are almost 40!
i am 26 and SINGLE…and LOVING it!!!
My life is DRAMA FREE!!
Everything that I am thinking has already been said by other posters, LOL. But I gotta say — I totally agree w/ Kim cuz it does sound like that loser’s new ‘friend’ is a prostitute!
Seriously though, there’s gotta be some kind of reason as to why he’s 38, never married, and has no kids — I am guessing its cuz he’s a total JERK!!
And he sounds like the insecure one to me. If it wasn’t working for him then he should’ve been a man and told you that instead of standing you up for the wedding! And another thing — why does he feel the need to write you such a long letter w/ so many poor excuses and putting the blame on you?! I think he knows he’s a total d-bag!
Oooh, he makes me mad and I don’t even know him! LOL
I’m so glad I’m not dating anymore. Guys can be such douche bags. Forget about him, you’ll find better!
Oh that’s great stuff. He sounds like a loser so you’re probably better off lol.
Umm, I like the dancing horse animation and that’s all I got to say about that. Funny stuff!
This guy needs to heed the call from the village – their idiot is missing…LOL
LOL!!
Oh what a piece of work he is…who needs him! Love your post!
“I just don’t want every little detail of my personal relationships being blogged for the world to see.” Sure honey.. we wouldn’t want your feelings to get hurt.. you being such a victim and all. Cross my heart..
*Gag*
Dang, makes me wish there was such a thing as blogging when I was single. The bright side? Better now than 6 months from now after you’ve wasted a perfectly good Thanksgiving, Xmas, New Years and Valentines Day on him, right? Onward and upward, girl!
Gosh, he sounds like a real loser! So glad he showed his true colors sooner rather than later.
Very simply put…this guy has to win BIggest Douche award and trust me some of my exes are huge douches but this guy takes the friggin cake. YOu go on with your HOT self
This is proof right there that this douchetard can’t commit. G’head, “go with the flow” with your “new girl”, dumbass, she’ll realize sooner-than-later you aren’t worth the trouble.
WooHoo…you told him. You go girl
This guys seriously has some issues HE needs to work out. BTW love the jackass pic lol.
Kas
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