End of an Era
This breaks my heart. We are in the middle of getting rid of old toys, clothes, and stuff and Hunter has been really good about getting rid of the toys he doesn’t play with anymore. Woo hoo, make room for all the crap Santa’s gonna bring.
Anyways, he was at it again today and I was shocked when I saw this in the trash:
Baby Nicole.
Hunter got this doll when he was about 3 because he wanted a baby sister. He named it baby Nicole. Isn’t that cute? This doll at that time happened to be the source of lots of problems and, well lets just say unnecessary negativity because the “other” adult in the picture at the time was completely against it. This is actually the second doll because the first one ended up with lost limbs, screws through the eyes….and worse. And of course not by Hunter or I. With this doll it got so bad as to name calling, swearing, and not allowing him in the same room if he had the doll. I allowed him to keep the doll because, I’m sorry but because a little toddler plays with a doll isn’t going to make him gay. If anything, he’ll become a better father.
Okay, anyways…I see the doll in the trash and I’m literally shocked. Not because he still plays with it, but because it was sort of a big part of our lives. Alright so he might not really remember the back story as well as I do.
So I say to him, “You’re throwing away Baby Nicole?” And he says so matter-of-fact, “yeah, i don’t play with it anymore.” I. Am. Crushed. I know you don’t play with it, but it’s…Baby Nicole. Now, I’m not upset that he’s outgrown the doll by any means, to be honest that things been hidden under a mass of stuffed animals on his top bunk hidden from all society for quite some time now. I think I may have some sort of attachment to the stupid thing. Or maybe, its just part of the reality that my baby is no longer a baby anymore.
This is the end of an era.
Oh hell, I’m going to take the damn thing out of the trash and stick it in my room!
LOL Keep her. Use it to remember how strong you were to get through a difficult time. PS what an ass! Boys that play house and with dolls at that young age are going to be great daddies. They will also be comfortable with their own sexuality!
I think i will keep her. And you know my son…and his amount of “girlfriends”!! The kids a playa! LOL
Aww, thats so cute that Hunter wanted a baby sister, but settled for a dolly. He’s such a cutie! There is nothing wrong for a little boy to play with girl toys or for a little girl to play with boy toys — children don’t know the difference at that age and as long as they’re having fun thats all that matters.
I think you should def keep the doll — you never know if someday there will be a real Baby Nicole in the house and you can let her play w/ her big brother’s dolly!
Or if nothing else then like Gena said — keep it to remind yourself how strong you are!
And seriously, the ‘other’ adult sounds like such a jerk to put it nicely. It sounds like you and Hunter put up with a lot of BS back in the day, I am sorry!
That’s cute. My son had a doll and a stroller he pushed around when he was 1 1/2-3ish. Then it got shoved to the bottom of the toy box. Like everything else, it was just a phase.
My daughter wanted the Sesame St work bench, that my parents (pops) refused to get her because it was a boy toy. The inlaws got it for her instead! = ) Keep Baby Nicole, even if she stays in the closet. I would!
Save Baby Nicole from the trash! She’s a cutie
I did! I couldn’t let her go!
I definitely would keep her! my mom kept random toys of mine that I wanted to give away as I got older and now I’m glad she kept them!
as far as the ‘other’ parent goes – I worked in a preschool for a year and we had this little guy named logan who was one of the older kids in the class, he turned 5 in january I believe. & our preschool had a ‘dress up’ or role playing area that had both female and male dress up items and unisex items as well, like firefighter costumes, tu tu’s, purses, construction hats, boots, high heels, aprons, etc. and everyday when class started we had self selected play for 15-20 minutes where the kids could do whatever they wanted. and more often than not logan would go STRAIGHT to the dress up area and more often than not he’d wear high heels, tu tu’s and high heels. (the great thing about preschool is none of the other kids ever even said anything to him! =]) but one day his dad hung around to talk to the teacher and logan had gotten dressed up in the ‘girly’ items and when his dad saw him he yelled WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU’RE DOING and i mean, it was so loud that ALL the babies turned and looked at him and just stared. and logan quickly took it all off and apologised, etc. but I realized that day that more than likely, the reason WHY logan enjoyed dressing up like that was BECAUSE his dad was so crazy about it. So, I think often times dads or parents being sexist about what their little ones can play with can cause the kids to almost ‘rebel’ and has a reverse effect.
That is so sad! But i can totally relate. Some guys just aren’t secure enough to see that their boys are just being harmless kids. My sons cousins, who are girls, dress my son up in their dresses and put wigs on him and make him wear high heels. He thinks its hilarious. He doesn’t want to be mean by telling them no, so he goes along with it. Am I worried? Hell no!
Keep, Keep, Keep!!! It’s Baby Nicole!!! Plus I totally wanna see you vlog in 10+ yrs showing his girlfriends what he played with as a wee boy!
LOL!! Drinking wine!
Aw that’s so cute. Owen had a baby doll too (and it took my hubby a bit to get use to the idea but thankfully he didn’t get like that with it. I’m sorry you guys had to deal with that) and I was sad too when he grew out of it =( I was just telling my husband today how I can’t believe my son’s turning 5 … that this time next week I’ll be the mom of a FIVE year old. Kinda sad and scary all at once lol.
its hard watching them grow up
Definitely keep it!
u did save her didn’t you I would of put her in a box and gave her to his daughter when he has one in 25 yrs.
Or you can put her up in your closet. Sounds like he’s outgrown her. HUGS mom
Way to go on rescuing the baby! I think I would have done the same thing.
Ok fine. So I have done the same.
I think I would have cried. My son is 7 and he plays with dolls…Not sure I really want him to, but he plays house with his sister (5) who gave him the boy baby doll from her set when she was 2…It was so sweet. Every now and then I catch them playing dr…and sometimes he is the mom, I know our daughter needs a turn being the dr, but it is disturbing, lol
I would keep it, some day you’ll need her (like for his daughter)
Keep the doll! Maybe some day he will have a child and you can give it to him/her! I agree, boys playing with dolls does NOT make them gay, what an asswipe the “other” one was! Sheesh! I have let my Grandson play with dolls, he is 3 now, no longer any interest, but when he was maller, I let him have one. Soooooo double standard, little girls can play with cars, etc, and no one says anything! Grrrrrrr
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I would so keep it! But it’s great to know that maybe one day my daughter will let me get rid of some of her toys!