I know you are all patiently waiting for all my outrageous posts from last weekends Bloggers on Bourbon trip in New Orleans. Unfortunately, you’re going to have to wait a little longer. Tragedy has struck me again.
I am still numb and in shock and in complete utter disbelief. The phone rang at 3:30 this morning and that is never a good thing. The voice on the other end was a mutual friend of mine and Hunter’s father, Joe. When he broke the news I didn’t believe it. Okay, I let some expletives fly thinking he was messing with me and asking him if this was some kind of horrible joke. It wouldn’t be a funny joke, but at that point I was willing to let it slide rather than have it be the actual truth. I ran out of my bedroom in shock. Still on the phone the words finally sank in and the tears began.
Tania had passed suddenly.
For my regular readers you probably have already picked up on who Tania is. For those of you who are not, well she is my son’s step-mother. Joe’s wife of only 8 months. I have written a few posts on her and how amazing our relationship was. She wasn’t just my sons step-mother and my exe’s wife….she was my friend. And i loved her.
We are unsure of what caused her sudden death and won’t know until the autopsy results. But, she had just come home from dinner with her parents and was in her daughters room ( who is only 17 months) with her mother getting the baby in her pj’s, when she said she was dizzy and collapsed. She died that instant. CPR could not save her. Tania was 27 years old and 4 months pregnant.
I have been a complete disaster all day and I’ve been up since that phone call early this morning. Joe works overseas and is getting a plane home and will be here tomorrow, to make matters even worse Joe’s mother passed away just a few days ago. So in just a matter of days he lost his mother, wife, and unborn baby. I’ve talked to him several times today and I just want him to know that we are here for him and support him. Hunter and I will be driving up to their house in Vermont probably sunday or monday to help him out. I had to break the news to Hunter this morning and he took it remarkably well. He really only cried when he talked to his dad but I think when the reality of it all sets in, it will probably hit him.
I want to take this time to thank everyone for their support and thoughts that you have left on my facebook page and on the Momdot forums. It really truely is a blessing to have people like all of you in my life.
Please keep us all in your thoughts and prayers. Especially Joe, Falyn, and Tania’s family.
Here are some previous posts I wrote about her if you want to read up on our history and relationship:
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Nicole, I’m so sorry to hear this news, I can’t imagine how deeply this hurts for you, Joe and Hunter. It’s one of those things that reminds us how fragile and precious life really is. (((HUGS))))
So sorry sweetie
Praying for all of you!
((hugs))I’m so sorry for everyone’s loss.
SO very sad! I wonder if she had an aneurysm? My cousin died of one…so sudden and unexpected.
(((((Nicole))))) I am so sorry to hear that. You, Hunter, Joe, Falyn & Tanias family are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Oh Nicole, I am so sorry for your, Hunter’s and Joe’s loss. Prayers for you all and big hugs.
I am so sorry.
how absolutely tragic. The whole family will be in my prayers.
Oh my goodness. I can’t imagine how Joe must be feeling. There are really no words…
Sending hugs and the most sincerest of thoughts to you and your family.
Sarah
I’m really sorry for everyone’s loss. Joe must be reeling. I mean how do you even deal with such a terrible set of tragedies.
Lee
So many prayers being sent up, I am so sorry for this loss and that of the baby too
I am so sorry you and Hunter have to go through this. I guess it reminds us just how fragile life really is.
We must tell the ones we love how much they mean to us as often as possible, as we never know when out time will come. Prayers & healing hugs coming your way. Remember you can always count on us if you need anything at all.
sincerest thoughts for all who loved her.
Oh my gosh that is unbelievable! I read your posts in the past about your relationship and thought it was remarkable that you could be so candid about your own feelings and your own realizations. This is such a sad story and I feel for you all. My thoughts are with you.
im so sorry for your loss blondie.
I have been praying for y’all all day. I am sooo sorry. :
we have been praying for you guys all day. Joe is going to need you and Hunter. Hugs sweetie. Hugs for that amazing little man you have.
Omg I am so sorry for all of you! That is such a terrible tragedy. I will keep you all in my prayers & thoughts.
I am so sorry to hear of this terrible tragedy. There are just no adequate words to say other than that you & your family will be in my thoughts.
I am so very, very sorry to hear about her untimely death. My thoughts and prayers are with your, your family, your ex and his wife’s family.
No words can express how sad this is. Hugs to you and prayers that she is at peace. Prayers for her family and all who knew her.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I will keep you all in my prayers.
I am so so sorry!!! I will be thinking of you and her whole family.
The girls and I will add all of your families to our prayer list. I’m really sorry for all of your losses, especially in such a short time period.
Monique
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts! (((HUGS)))
I am so very sorry for your loss. What a tragedy! My thoughts, prayers and hugs are with you and all her and the baby’s family and friends.
Words can not express how truly sorry I am for the loss of your friend. I wwill be praying for peace and comfort for you all. Hugs, sweetie!
((HUGS)) My thoughts and prayers are with you guys!
Kas
I wish there was something to make sense of all this but there simply isn’t. Thinking of all of you.
I don’t know what made me click on your blog today and read this, but I am deeply saddened and so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and the rest grieving in my prayers.
God Bless,
Melissa
Thinking of y’all. I can’t imagine. Safe travels to you and Hunter as you go to be with Joe and the family. (((HUGS)))
I have not stopped by in a while and Im so sorry to come back and see you going through this. Hugs.
My thoughts are prayers are with you, Hunter, and the family!
Thinking of you beautiful. I am so sorry for your families loss. Hope you are doing OK, call if you need anything.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I will be praying for all of you!
Virginia
That’s so awful. For anybody it is, but for someone who is only 27 yrs old and beginning their life. I’m so sorry:(
I’m so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.
**HUGS** so sorry for what you and your family are going through. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
You and your family are in our thoughts and our prayers.
This is just so sad. I am so sorry this happened. :hugs: